Shortly after she turned forty, Maggie Stevens took an unexpected journey that changed the course of her life. She didn't decide to visit all of the Earth's rain forests or spend months roaming through the African desert. It was not for scientific research nor was it for purposes of investigative journalism. Maggie’s journey took place in the most unlikely of places: on a bus with a bunch of actors. Think "Almost Famous," except instead of a teenage boy, it was a pre-pre-menopausal mom of three. Forced to face all of her fears on the road, Maggie must figure out how to get back the one thing she lost many years ago: herself. Inspired by the author’s own journey on the road while accompanying her son as his guardian on a Broadway tour and documented in the popular blog, www.momontour.com. Get to know Maggie Stevens: "She’s neurotic, insecure, energetic, and entertaining. As she tells her story, she doesn’t hold back. The reader is told everything that Maggie thinks and feels. Luckily Maggie is an original character. She’ll make you laugh, cry, wince, and shake your head. At times one may wonder if she has no shame, but that’s a good thing. Maggie does not self-censure and lets it all hang out.
Allyson Ochs Primack was born and raised in Detroit, Michigan. She graduated from Michigan State University with a degree in English Education and received her law degree from Wayne State University. She practiced law in Detroit before moving to Phoenix, Arizona in 1997. She practiced law for 15 years as a criminal defense attorney.
From January of 2013-July of 2014, she accompanied her oldest son on a Broadway tour and documented her journey in the popular blog www.momontour.com.
In August of 2014, she launched a non-profit foundation which provides children in Arizona the opportunity to see and be a part of live theatre. In October of 2014, she wrote "You'll Be Swell: What To Expect When You Expect Your Child Will Be A Star", a humorous look at the realities of show business for children today.
She is married and has three children.
Q. What inspires your
writing?
A. My writing is
inspired by the people around me. I have always been fascinated by people
and whether or not they are feeling the same way that I do. It wasn't
until I started blogging that I realized that there were so many people out
there that were going through the exact same experiences and emotions that I
was. Women go through life having to be very politically correct if they
want to fit in. I was like that too until I became a mom. Once you
have given birth and have been literally naked in front of dozens of people,
you realize that there's not a lot left to hide.
Q. What is your
favorite thing about being an writer?
A. I am 100% honest in what
I write. I never write anything unless I am revealing exactly what I am
thinking or feeling. I am brutally honest. I find that I often hold
all of my feelings aside in real life conversations, because I am sometimes
afraid of people's reactions. The best thing about writing is being able
to be completely free and true to myself. (I always have to apologize to
people that I meet that I am not that funny in real life.) Also, I love
the quiet time that I have to go off and write for months at a time at my cabin
in Vermont.
(Oh, wait. That's not me. Sorry, I'm totally copying from an
article about Stephen King that was in "People.")
Q. What is the
toughest part of being an writer?
A. With three children under
the age of 13, the toughest part is finding the time to write. If I
could, I would write all day long. My kids have very busy lives, and I
have to carve out time for myself to be able to do what I love. I think
that all parents have the same daily struggle with finding the time to do the
things that they love to do. (Like sleep or eat or take a shower, to name
a few.) Thank goodness for my cabin in Vermont.
Q. If you could
not be writer, what would you do/be?
A. I would love to be a
Kardashian. I would love a career where I sit around and chat with people
about the most intimate details of my life and then complain about my lack of
privacy while being filmed.
Q. What would the story of your life be entitled?
A. "Figuring It Out As I Go"
Q. What is your favorite book of all time?
A. Anything by Judy Blume, but specifically "Are You
There God? It's Me Margaret" That was the very first time that I
realized that I found a character inside a book who was just like me.
Also, I loved "What To Expect When You're Expecting" because it
was like a friend I could yell at all day long. "UM, no, chapter 3,
you are wrong. I have not only gained 5 pounds at this point in my
pregnancy. It's more like 25. So, don't tell me what I should be
doing at this point. You have NO IDEA. You are an outdated book.
The pregnant lady on your cover is smiling and wearing a jumper. I
mean, come on."
Q. Which character from ANY book are you most like?
A. I know she's a real life person, but I read Amy
Poehler's autobiography "Yes, Please" and have never identified more
with a main character/narrator in my life. We have so much in common, and
I'm sure if she met me, we would be best friends (although she can still be
best friends with Tina Fey too. We would all be best friends with each
other.)
Q. What character from all of your book
are you most like?
A. I cannot lie. Maggie Stevens from "Mom On
The Road" is the fictionalized version of myself. Everything she
says and does and feels comes from within me. She is a little crazier
than I am, but I get to live vicariously through her wild side.
Q. Which book would you love to take a weekend
vacation inside of?
A. Any book by Elin Hildebrand. They are all set in Nantucket during the summer. So, maybe I just need
to take a weekend vacation in Nantucket one
summer.
Q. What do you want to be remembered for 100 years from
now?
A. For creating "The Act Two Movement": where
all women over forty get to re-invent their lives. They can start over
and this time they can do whatever they want. No more pleasing anyone
other than themselves. Also, I'd like to be the person who made it
fashionable for women to have cellulite, wrinkles and messy hair.
Q. What is your favorite season?
A. I love fall. I love the excitement that comes
with start of the holiday season and the cooler temperatures and changing
leaves. Of course, I live in Arizona
now, so a lot of that doesn't happen here. It's still 100 degrees in
October and the leaves never change colors because we don't really have trees.
But we do still celebrate holidays here, along with dozens of tourists
who come here over Christmas and steal our parking spots at the mall.
Q. What inspired your book cover(s)? Or
what is your favorite book cover and why?
A. My book cover is inspired by the journey that I took
that led to the creation of this book. I spent 6 months on a tour bus
looking out at the open road. The emptiness that I saw out the window
helped me clear my mind. Most moms never get even a moment to stare at
nothing. We are always so busy looking at something or someone.
Now, anytime I need clarity, I will drive or walk around areas that are
empty and quiet.
Q. Tell me something funny that happened while on a book
tour or while promoting your book.
A. My book is edgy and honest and also contains a lot of
inappropriate language and scenarios. I don't think I realized that my
parent's friends and people I grew up with would be reading it. Shortly
after the book was released, I got a call from a 70 year old neighbor that I
hadn't heard from in years. She called to tell me how much she loved my
book, and then she offered to send me some small grammatical edits. I
couldn't stop laughing when I saw the email with suggestions like "We
really enjoyed the marijuana, my friends and I. Change 'I' to 'me.'
Also, Allyson, when you discuss the sexting and the vibrator, you may
want to add a few more details here.... " I am still recovering from
that email (and yet, I totally used her suggestions and made the edits).
Q. Are you working on something new?
A. I'm working on the sequel to "Mom On The
Road" called "Mother Blogger." Maggie Stevens has returned
home from the tour and tries to readjust to her new life at home. She
also realizes that there is a very thin line between parenting and "mommy
blogging" and the negative consequences that can occur by being a little
too honest on the internet.
Q. Anything you want to say to followers of this blog or
those that are just stopping by?
A. Contrary to rumors, I am not dating Bradley Cooper.
Also, I have really great metabolism and that's why I can wear a string
bikini at 43. It was all from nursing because, as we all know, it totally
burns calories.
Thanks
so much. Allyson Primack (www.momontour.com